Guide to online dating first message example
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
You mentioned that you’re learning to ride, have you had many lessons?
x Suzie” A message like the one above shows that you have taken the time to read the person’s profile and are not just contacted hundreds of people with the same message.
Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.
Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.
Ask open questions that require more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ reply, because these are more interesting to answer.
Whatever happens, don't be put off sending messages, a cheesy message is better than no message at all!This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.If your profile is half-finished, or Arctic in its brevity, or doesn’t include photos, most likely you won’t receive a reply.Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.
If it’s just their dazzling smile or their sparkly blue eyes, that’s fine!That way you’ll be in a positive mood, you won’t be tempted to write too much, and you’ll be too busy to keep checking for a reply. And when you do, we’ll be pleased to receive an email from you, telling us all about it.